Nigeria: Single Lady- Dealing With Fear

Many women, especially the matured singles who have believed God to marry, often fear they may never marry. Many who have been married before and do desire to be married again fear they will never meet the right man.

Many, who have been widowed fear loosing their husbands again if they do remarry, The fear of what people will say has robbed some women of their opportunities to be happy again. Some widows fear what their friends and in-laws would say if they were to remarry.

With those who are divorced, the fear of making a mistake the second time around can and does prevent some women from remarriage. When our life is ruled by fears, we are wasting a lot of time and energy

But I have great news for you! The Bible says that; "Our God has not given us the spirit of fear, but the spirit of power, and the spirit of love and the spirit of a sound mind.

Why worry about yesterday? Yesterday is gone! One of the best things about the past is that it is over! There is a much better place to focus your attention: the Present! This new moment is fresh and new.

God has given you the power to do or think whatever you want with it. I want to encourage you to seize that power by focusing your attention on what you want. Many of us fear what the future will bring before the future arrives, but you can never predict the future; you can't control the future by worrying about it.

The fear of how do I pay my rent? How do I pay the school fees and bills? When will I have a man to call my own? When will my breakthrough come? Are all normal fears but they shouldn't paralyse us.

Many of us act as if our fears are fixed, as if our situations will always remain permanent. When you put your trust and faith in God, you do not need to fear what others fear.

The Lord has commanded us to "Fear not! For I the Lord, am with you"

When the Lord is for you who can be against you?

Even if you fear that your entire world is crashing around you, believe in God and He will give you the strength to hold on.

The greatest promise you can have for the future is the Lord's assurance. He doesn't want us to fear because we can live without fear by building our faith on what He has promised us in his word. Fear is the opposite of faith, faith promises, and fear paralyses.

Are you afraid of failure, rejection, or of taking a bold step of faith?

Most of the time God is waiting for us to take the first step of boldness to come out of our fear and occupy the positions that He has ordained for us or to begin to do that which He has called us to and then leave the rest to him.

Jealousy and Creative Writers: Dealing With Envy

You could become a jealous maniac (like one of the 10,000 Maniacs, the band Ms. Merchant fronted before going solo). But we at Writer’s Relief know you have to be realistic, so here are five practical tips for turning envy into empowerment.

1. Use your jealousy as motivation. If a friend or member of your writing group gets a poem or short story accepted by a prestigious literary journal , cultivate an “I can do that too” attitude. If that person can get an acceptance letter, you can too!

2. Congratulate the person on her or his publishing accomplishment. Being gracious is the right thing to do. It will make you feel better to know you reacted well. And staying on good terms with the worthy wordsmith might eventually pay dividends, which leads to our third point:

3. Rather than stewing in jealousy, ask a successful writer for help! Turn a negative experience into a positive one. Often, honest communication can help alleviate jealous thoughts.

4. That’s why it’s important to talk things out. Confide in a close friend or spouse. Don’t keep jealousy all bottled up. And also, when your kind friend reminds you of all the reasons you shouldn’t be jealous, be open to hearing—really hearing—the words.